教你如何成为职场女超人

如何成为职场女超人

谁说职场高人都是男人滴天下？女人也有一个天地，你想成为职场女超人吗？教你几招：

1. Dont plan your career: Most of the women on the Fortune MPW list, starting with PepsiCo (PEP) CEO Indra Nooyi, No. 1 in the rankings since 2006, had no clear career map when they graduated college or business school. Rather, they stayed flexible and open to the possibilities.

不必规划自己的职业生涯：在最具影响力商界女性榜单中，包括从2006年便一直名列榜首的百事可乐公司（PepsiCo）CEO卢英德在内，大部分人从大学或商学院毕业后并没有明确的职场规划。相反，她们始终保持灵活和开放的姿态，来迎接任何可能出现的机遇和挑战。

2. Forget the ladder: climb the jungle gym. What good is a ladder when the world is changing so fast and unpredictably--and who knows what tomorrows ideal job will be? Think of your career as a jungle gym, sharpen your peripheral vision, and look for opportunities all around.

忘掉晋升阶梯：把职场当做攀爬架。世界变化太快，难以捉摸，梯子到底有什么意义？谁能预见明天最理想的工作是什么？把自己的职业想象成攀爬架，睁大眼睛，保持开阔的视野，从周围寻找机会。

3. Worry about the job youre in："If you dont do that one well, youll never get the next one," says Jan Fields, who started out cooking French fries at McDonalds (MCD) and rose to U.S. President. While its important to envision some ultimate goal, says Fields, "you have to focus on what you have right now, or that long-term opportunity wont come."

着眼于眼前：简菲尔兹最初在麦当劳（McDonalds）负责炸薯条工作，通过不懈努力终于成为麦当劳美国区总裁。她认为：“如果连当前的工作都做不好，何谈下一份工作？”菲尔兹表示，预想一个最终目标当然非常重要，但“首先必须专注于眼下的工作，否则永远不会有长远的机会。”

4. Follow your compass, not your clock: Avon Products (AVP) CEO Andrea Jung lives by this advice, ever since she got passed over the first time around, for the CEO job. Former Time Inc. (TWX) CEO Ann Moore, on the Avon board at the time, gave Jung this advice. Its good that Jung stayed. In the CEO role since 1999, shes now the longest-serving female chief in the Fortune 500, and shes on the Apple (AAPL) and General Electric (GE) boards.

瞄准人生大方向，不必在意一时得失：可以说，雅芳产品公司（Avon Products）CEO钟彬娴的成功靠的就是这句话。当时，她在公司CEO的首次角逐中败北，时任雅芳董事会成员、时代集团（Time Inc.）前任CEO的安摩尔给了她这条忠告。于是，钟彬娴打消了离开的念头，留在了公司。钟彬娴从1999年便一直担任雅芳公司CEO，是《财富》500强公（Fortune 500）中任期最长的女性CEO。同时，她还在苹果公司（Apple）与通用电气公司（General Electric）董事会任职。

5. Take risks: Google (GOOG) VP Marissa Mayer had a slew of job offers from well-known companies in 1999 when she was coming out of Stanford University with a Masters in Computer Science. She chose Google, then a brand new startup, because, she says, "I wanted to work for smart people, and I wanted to do things I wasnt ready to do."

勇于冒险：1999年，谷歌公司（Google）现任副总裁玛丽莎梅耶尔从斯坦福大学（Stanford University）毕业，获得了计算机专业硕士学位。当时，有多家知名公司向她伸出了橄榄枝，但她却选择了成立不久的初创公司谷歌。对此，她的解释是因为“我希望能为聪明人打工，而且我希望能够接受从未经历过的挑战。”

20个想法带你走向巨大成功

如果你想成功，从任何时候开始都不会晚，20个想法带领你走上巨大成功。

20 Thoughts That Will Lead You To Great Success

It’s never too late to get started on a successful life, and I’ve listed 20 thoughts that will help you achieve great success today. Take a moment and internalize these thoughts, and you’ll be on your way to a better tomorrow.

1. Our Actions Are a Testament to Our Thoughts.

Dale Carnegie once stated, “It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” If you work hard, it’s unlikely that you have an air of entitlement, or expect great success without effort. Visualize a healthy path to success and follow through with actions that align with your vision.

2. Doing What You Like Matters.

Doing what you like will help you find purpose and fulfillment in your life. While many people refer to pre-established models of success defined by their peers, superiors, or even families, it’s more important to evaluate what YOUR model of success looks like. In most cases, discovering what “make you tick” is more important than being miserable doing something that society defines as success.

3. Focus is Critical To Great Success.

In a world of advertisements, promising opportunities, and addicting apps, distraction is only a click away. Unplugging and re-connecting with your goals is critical to achieving better results. Spending a few minutes every morning visualizing your goal and establishing an actionable direction for achievement will make avoiding distractions much easier. In the words of Zig Ziglar, “Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.” Focus.

4. Opportunity Success Looks A Lot Like Hard Work.

Being in the right place at the right time isn’t always a coincidence; the harder you work, the more likely it will be that you’ll end up in “the right place.” While this statement seems as unprovable as the idea of karma, there must be a reason that the world’s most successful individuals say it, right? Seneca once wrote, “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” Hemingway said, “It is better to be lucky. But I would rather be exact. Then when luck comes you are ready.” Even recently, actor Ashton Kutcher said, “Opportunity Looks A Lot Like Hard Work.”

5. “Everyone Communicates, Few Connect.”

John Maxwell, author of countless NYT bestsellers, recently wrote a book called Everyone Communicates, Few Connect. His book explains that the most successful people in the world are excellent communicators: people who not only communicate their message, but create a connection. The secret to connection, Maxwell suggests, is authentic interest in others, simplifying the message, inspiring people, and living what you communicate. The book is a roadmap for successful relationships, and I’d highly suggest it.

6. There Will Always Be Bad Days. Overcome Them.

Even the most successful people have bad days, but ONLY successful people bounce back. If your day is headed into a tailspin, remove yourself from the situation, ground yourself, and calmly determine what you have power over in order to turn things around. Grounding yourself is not only shown to have positive health benefits; it gives you an opportunity to contextualize your struggles, which allows you to move forward and overcome even the worst of days.

7. Imitating The Great Can Yield Great Results If Done Thoughtfully.

Copycatting isn’t the only form of imitation. If you carefully observe successful people, you can glean valuable information and build on it. Spend a week observing people that you admire. Imitate those who are successful by bettering their processes where neccesary, and building off the strong points in their success. Do not copy, but observe and grow your own solution through thoughtful and purposeful decisions that build off the greats that came before you.

8. If Perception Is Reality, How Do Others Perceive Your Personal Brand?

You may not be successful by your measure, but do you carry yourself with confidence? Do you give off a positive vibe and the aura of success? Recognize the things that could be hurting your personal brand. If perception is reality, and people perceive you to be negative and unsuccessful — well, you get where I’m going.

9. Helping Others Succeed Will Yield Great Success In You Own Life.

Veronica Roth, author of Divergent, once said that there is power in self-sacrifice. In my own life, I’ve seen nothing but positive things from giving to others, connecting those in need, sharing information, and helping people who are willing to be helped. In my limited experience, nothing bad comes from helping people in need and sometimes your goodwill can even come full circle!

10. Success Comes In Different Sized Portions.

This thought about great success is important because it is entirely about self-awareness. Challenge yourself to be self-aware and recognize even the smallest of successes in your daily life. Great success is a habit made up of smaller successes in life.

11. If You Don’t Love Yourself, You Won’t Succeed.

Do not let fear or self-doubt hold you back. There is no “too late,” and you can do it. Marianne Williamson said it best:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

12. You Don’t Work For Money.

See thought #2. You work for many reasons, and while money may be ONE of these reasons, it’s not everything. Find purpose in your job beyond monetary concerns, and you’ll find more success than if all you do is focus on money.

13. Listen.

Sometimes we miss opportunities for success because we do not listen. Challenge yourself to listen more than you speak.

I once asked the Director of what she thought made her Twitter handle so popular; for someone who isn’t famous, her following is impressive. Here’s the conversation:

@BigRyanPark To always try and respond, and to listen more than you talk. That’s good advice for life, actually. Not just Twitter.

— Ann Handley (@MarketingProfs) November 12, 2013

14. Build On The Fact That You Have Enough.

Let’s connect the dots. Learning the art of contentment can lead to lower stress levels; lower stress levels leads to higher brain functionality; it is more likely that you are successful when you are thinking straight. If you build on the fact that you have enough and learn the art of contentment, you will go places (and people will follow).

15. Success Is A Continuous Journey.

Arthur Ash once said, “Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome.” Great success come naturally if you view your life as a grand adventure: an experience filled with successes and failures. While it’s important to focus on your goals, take a moment to appreciate the daily struggle because it’s all part of a continuous journey. If you adapt, better yourself, and recognize that success is a journey, you’ll be fine.

16. Reading IS Power Success.

In his book I Can Read With My Eyes Shut, Dr. Seuss wrote, “The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” Many people say that they “don’t have time to read”, but we make time for what is important to us. Wake up 30 minutes early and read, for knowledge truly is power.

17. If You Can’t Afford It, Don’t Buy It.

One of the surefire ways to put yourself in a bad position to achieve success is to accumulate massive debts. Understand that in a capitalist society everything around you was made to make you buy more. Simply put: if you can’t afford it, don’t buy it. Not sure what “can’t afford it” and “savings” looks like? Read this article by Lifehack; it’s a keeper.

18. We Are Creatures Of Habit. Reward Yourself For Good Habits, and Examine Your Bad Habits.

Personal growth and success can be a mental game. Positive reinforcement for even the smallest success is neccesary. On the other hand, be present and examine your bad habits; illuminate them for what they are. Nothing can impede success more than bad habits left unameliorated. “You need not fight to stop a habit. Just don’t give it an opportunity to repeat itself.” -Swami Satchidananda, The Yoga Sutras

19. Setting Realistic Goals Is Important.

Simplifying your goals to keep them realistic is an important step to achieving them. Ask yourself, “Is this something that I can commit to?” Do not second-guess your abilities, but be mindful of your capabilities and set yourself up for success. Inevitably, failure happens, but if you set realistic goals you will succeed. As you develop a habit of success, grow your goals and challenge yourself.

20. If All Else Fails, Surround Yourself With Successful People.

Success takes time. Spend that time pursuing your goals and surrounding yourself with people that are already successful; don’t worry, you have something valuable to offer successful people that they want: time, energy, and a positive spirit. If you come to the table with positive energy and a willingness to make yourself valuable, successful people are usually willing to share their knowledge and connect you with the right people. This is invaluable. Leave your ego at home, surround yourself with successful people, and allow yourself to learn from others.

如何用英语吐槽“变凉”的天气

天气凉了，亲们准备好毛衣、外套抵御寒冷了吗？经过几轮刮风和降雨，天气一天冷似一天。今天我们就一起聊聊变冷的天气吧！

1. Its freaking cold today!

今天冷死啦！

2. Its a bit nippy today - you might need a coat.

今天有点儿凉了，你可能要穿件大衣。

3. It was so cold that I was shivering.

太冷了，我直发抖。

4. You must be chilly without a coat on.

不穿大衣，你肯定会觉得凉。

5. We are having a cold snap.

我们遭遇了寒流。

6. The frigid gusts of wind stung their faces.

一阵阵寒风吹得他们脸上刺痛。

7. Im so cold. Look, Ive got goosebumps all over me!

太冷了。瞧，我起了一身鸡皮疙瘩。

托福备考中，最重要的任务是背单词。对于非牛人来说，每天初背200个左右的生词是比较合适的量，而且要记住，复习比初背更重要。如果有某天实在没有多少时间背单词，哪怕暂停背诵新的词汇，也要优先完成复习任务。

仅次与背单词的任务，就是看OG了。主要是看OG上解释说明的部分，尤其是对于各个单项的介绍。通过看OG了解TOEFL考试的概况。利用里面ETS 提供的较为丰富的作文样本、口语录音样本，配合主观题的评分标准，自己研究具体评分细则，从样本里找出扣分的原因。这种分析能对主观题的解答能奠定良好的基础。

从这一阶段开始，进入到了真正的新托福备考阶段。也就是做题为主的复习。OG(客观题)是一定要做的，而且要反复做，至少做3-4遍，最好把它做烂了。Delta也最好做2遍，旧托福真题最好也做2到3遍。

托福“一日两题”现象

2013年目前一日出现两套题目的时间有：8月25日、10月12日、10月20日；

2012年7月28日、8月25日也出现了两套考题。

托福“两套题”可能原因

1、干扰机经预测；

2、防止考场作弊。

托福“两套题”对策

1、平时学习以提升能力为目标；

2、临考复习以预测机经为范围；

3、考试答题以真实发挥为原则。

2013大陆托福考试其他变化

1、整套新题从未出现，新题与老题混合考；

2、整套重复从未出现，拼盘越拆越碎；

(读听说写重复过去的一套题à读听说写重复过去的四套不同题à读听说写重复过去的N套题)

3、重复规律不断变化，旧题重复频率高；

4、英音已经出现，澳音、新西兰音可能出现。

给人让路时英文如何表达

如果你要给别人让路，可以这么说：

Ladies first.

女士优先。（如果对方是妹纸）

Age before beauty.

老人优先。（如果对方是长者）

After you.

You first.

您先请。（对方可以是任何人）

如果有人挡在你前面，你该怎样礼貌地请ta让开呢？可以这么说：

Excuse me. = Pardon me.

不好意思让一下。

Coming through.

借过。

Could I get by, please?

可以让我过去吗？

Watch your feet!

注意脚下！

你去找人，人家正忙着，你该怎么开口？可以这么开口：

May I have a word with you?

我能和你聊几句吗？

You got a minute?

你有一分钟吗？

Can we talk?

咱们能聊几句吗？

Lets talk.

咱们聊一下吧。

行就是ok，不行就是sorry，那“等一下”该怎么说呢？

Wait.

Wait a moment.

Wait one minute.

Just a second.

这几句里的moment、minute和second都可以互换哦。

“抱歉打扰了”又该怎么说？打扰别人了可以这么说：

Im sorry.

Sorry to be a bother.

抱歉打扰了。

Sorry for the inconvenience.

很抱歉给您带来了不便。

如果有人对你说“Sorry to be such a pest”，你猜ta是什么意思呢？

Sorry to be such a pest = 抱歉打扰了、抱歉又是我。

比如你写了3封邮件给某人，对方一直没有回复，你第4次再写邮件过去的时候就可以补一句“Sorry to be such a pest, but I need that report.”（不好意思又是我，但我真的急需那份报告。）下回用用看！

我不是个爱拥抱的人。在派对上看到习惯侵犯私人空间的人走过来时，我脑子里就会响起《大白鲨》(Jaws)的音乐。有很多人都和我一样——在社交场合挺自在，没有特别的恐惧症，只是在身体亲密行为的表达上有点保守。

The Delicate Protocol Of Hugging

Im not a hugger. When I see a registered personal-space invader coming my way at a party, the music from Jaws plays in my head. And there are lots of people like me -- reasonably comfortable in social situations, no particular phobias, just a bit reserved in expressions of physical intimacy.

For us fans of personal space, these are difficult times. America has become a hugging culture. Whats an Academy Award without a gauntlet of hugs from seat to stage? Any sports win will ignite an orgy of whooping, full-body man hugs. Political empathy in tragedy is measured in hugs.

We remain a medium touch culture -- more physically demonstrative than Japan, where a bow is the all-purpose hello and goodbye, but less demonstrative than Latin or Eastern European cultures, where hugs are robust and can include a kiss on both cheeks. But we do seem to be hugging more.

For men, this is newly slippery terrain. Handshakes are scripted and reliable -- a firm grip, a couple of brisk pumps, and done. There is evidence of hand-shaking as far back as the fifth century B.C. It may have started as a gesture of peace by proving that the hand held no weapon.

With hugging now in play, men must do rapid social calculations: body language, length and nature of the relationship, setting, alcohol effect and the others intentions. Decisions must be made in split seconds.

Male friends tell me that they adhere to the one-second rule (one-Mississippi and . . . break). They also favor the A-frame hug -- shoulders touching, handshake high, a couple of quick taps on the back. There is no such middle ground for women. Its either shake or hug.

Bill Clinton has perfected the hug that is not a hug: a handshake complemented by also holding the others upper arm. Advantage -- more intense than a handshake but short of an embrace, and it can be maintained indefinitely. It can also easily progress to a full hug as the conversation dictates.

When we expand our exploration to the man-woman hug, things get dicey. Especially at work.

Science says that hugs are healthy: They release endorphins, strengthen the immune system, boost self-esteem and promote bonding. But they can also put a warning in your personnel file.

There are many valid reasons to hug in an office setting -- anything from a big team win to goodbyes after downsizing. But one senior executive I know shared some universal career advice: Dont yell, dont cry, dont hug. His advice is backed by surveys that say that most people dont want intimacy with other workers.

As the question of whether or not to hug becomes more situational, the potential rises for awkward encounters. The biggest risk: going in for a hug only to realize too late that the other person had not planned the same. Expert consensus says that if youre going for the hug and its too late to turn back, dont stop. Press on, but make it quick.

For nonhuggers, there are some defensive maneuvers. Deflect: Keep something (a desk, a table, a co-worker) between you and the serial hugger until the moment passes. Deny: Sorry, Im not much of a hugger. Resist: Take physical control with a stiff handshake and firm elbow that keeps personal space intact. Escape: Find something that requires your immediate attention. If nothing comes to mind, drop your cellphone. Lie: I really dont want you to catch this cold I have. Or when diversion isnt feasible and escape is impossible, accept the hug with an icy response and hope that the hugger remembers.

Workplace hugging is particularly problematic when your workplace happens to be a school. Teachers have been told never to hug any child for any reason -- even though a hug is precisely what a child might need.

Many schools have also added a written policy against hugging between students, with suspensions finding their way into national news. Students and some parents are irate at bans on a simple act of affection. But feel for the school administrator, responsible for determining when a simple act of affection becomes a more complex situation.

There is always the question: Are we overthinking this? Maybe weve complicated a simple act to the point that risk has overtaken reward, and its just not worth the effort. Some would say its a lamentable loss of human connection. As someone who believes that we call it personal space for a reason, Im OK with that.

Dr. Drexler is an assistant professor of psychology in psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College and the author, most recently, of Our Fathers, Ourselves: Daughters, Fathers and the Changing American Family.

我不是个爱拥抱的人。在派对上看到习惯侵犯私人空间的人走过来时，我脑子里就会响起《大白鲨》(Jaws)的音乐。有很多人都和我一样——在社交场合挺自在，没有特别的恐惧症，只是在身体亲密行为的表达上有点保守。

对我们这些喜欢保持一定距离的人来说，这种时候就比较难熬。美国已经成为了一个崇尚拥抱文化的国家。没有从座位到舞台的一连串拥抱能叫奥斯卡颁奖礼(Academy Award)吗？任何体育项目的获胜都会引起一阵狂欢式的全身拥抱。悲剧事件中政治同理心是通过拥抱来衡量的。

我们还是一个“中度接触”的文化——比日本人更喜欢用身体接触表达感情，但不如拉丁或东欧文化。在日本，鞠躬是通行的问候和告别礼节，而在拉丁和东欧国家，拥抱都很有力，还包括亲吻两边的脸颊。但我们确实似乎拥抱得越来越多了。

对男士来说，这是个新的需要谨慎对待的礼仪。握手已经约定俗成，比较可靠——握紧、轻轻摇晃两下、结束。早在公元前五世纪就有关于握手的记载，可能最早是一种表示和平的.手势，是为了证明手里没有武器。

如今到了流行拥抱的时候，男士们必须进行快速的社交计算：肢体语言、与对方关系的时长和性质、环境、酒精效应还有对方的意图。决定必须在一瞬间做出。

男性朋友告诉我，他们坚持“一秒原则”（默念“密西西比”刚好一秒……然后结束）。他们还喜欢A字型拥抱——碰肩、高举双手相握、拍拍背。对女性来说没有这样的中间选择，要么握手要么拥抱。

比尔·克林顿(Bill Clinton)完善了一种不算拥抱的拥抱方式：握手的同时抓住对方的上臂。好处是——比单纯的握手更热情但又不算拥抱，而且姿势可以保持很长时间。随着谈话的进展还可以很容易发展成全身拥抱。

异性拥抱就比较危险了，尤其是在职场。

科学研究表明拥抱有益健康：可以释放内啡?，增强免疫系统，提升自尊，增进感情。不过同时也会让你的人事档案里出现警告。

在工作场合有很多拥抱的正当理由——从团队获胜到裁员告别，可拥抱的场合很多。但我认识的一位高管分享了一个通用的职场建议：“不要喊，不要哭，不要拥抱。”他的建议得到了问卷调查结果的支持，调查显示大多数人不想和同事有亲密行为。

既然该不该拥抱的问题变得越来越取决于场合因素，那么会面时出现尴尬的可能性就变大了。最大的风险是：准备拥抱的时候却意识到对方并没有同样打算。专家一致认为，如果你准备拥抱，而且回头又太晚，那就不要停。抱上去，但动作要快。

对不喜欢拥抱的人来说有一些防御动作。转移：让“连环拥抱者”和自己之间有个障碍物，比如桌子、茶几或者同事，直到那个时刻过去。拒绝：“对不起，我不大喜欢拥抱。”反抗：用身体控制，握手时故意保持僵硬，肘部僵硬一点，以防个人空间被入侵。逃避：寻找需要你们立即注意的事情。如果找不到的话就故意摔手机。撒谎：“我实在不想把感冒传染给你。”在没办法转移、又不可能逃避的时候，那就冷冰冰地接受拥抱并希望对方能记住教训。

如果你是在学校上班，那么拥抱的问题就会格外棘手。学校要求老师不能以任何理由拥抱学生，即使学生需要也不行。

很多学校还增加了禁止学生之间拥抱的书面规定，取消这种规定的呼声开始见诸于全美各处媒体。学生和部分家长不满学校禁止这种简单的表达情感的行为。但从校方管理人员的角度来看又情有可原，在简单的情感表达行为变成更复杂的问题时，需要做出决定的是他们。

总有这样一个问题：我们是不是想太多了？也许我们把一个简单的行为想得太复杂了，让风险压倒了好处，其实根本就不值得这么费尽心思去想。有人会说这是人类情感联系的可悲损失。作为一个认为私人空间很有必要的人，我表示赞同。